So, you’re single and wondering about online dating.
Or maybe you’re already trying it out and wanting to get more out of it.
The discussion flows from one aspect of online dating and relationships to another. Reasons included living in a small town with few prospects; just moved to a new city and didn’t know a lot of people; never having a Christian date despite going to the ‘biggest church in town;’ all the girlfriends signed up together to check it out. Profiles lacking in detail were overlooked by the panelists.
What expectations were there before trying online dating? Sam mentioned that, while being an unromantic way to look at it, finding a match is similar to a job interview and the job search as a whole.
If you've got a question about anything related to singleness or living the single life, please submit it to [email protected] (selected questions will be posted anonymously). I was married 35 years and he died 8 years ago, and I have had a few men locally interested but they weren't right for me.
I am not feeling comfortable with what I am doing or what I am to discern as maybe a red flag other than the obvious. Maybe I was supposed to only get to know one man at a time, make a decision and move on to the next?
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Last weeks podcast, ‘Behind the Scenes of Online Dating‘ featured a roundtable crew familiar with online dating from different perspectives.I applaud you for your efforts to delve into this realm.As a caution though, many use online dating not as a noble alternative to finding their spouse but rather a place to satisfy their mortal cravings.For some, they have dabbled in it on and off; for others it ‘worked’ (one dating, one married); one even co-founded a Christian dating service back in 1999 (that would be our very own Sam Moorcroft). A detailed profile was the consensus among the panel (“I like to read” versus “The last novel I read was ____ and I loved it because ___”).While most provided stories and opinions from a relationship-seeker point of view, Sam provided insight and advice from a dating site operator vantage point. When reading profiles, those who put a lot of time and thought into their profile answers were considered serious about finding a match. If you can’t stand the person but have a great physical relationship, rethink the relationship. If one person is uncomfortable with any type of physical expression, don’t do it. Don’t push a date to do anything that makes him/her feel uncomfortable. But, the authority of Christ needs to take precedence over your physical drives. If the social, emotional, spiritual dimensions are missing or lacking, you are out of balance. I think my lack of experience has gotten my focus off of the real issues, but actually what is the real issue other than a man who loves Jesus with all his heart. HE SAID: Online dating has become a serious mainstay as a viable alternative to finding a mate at any age.For instance, I have one gentleman who is interested but seems too focused on what he calls "chemistry." I am confused to say the least. With the hectic and often scattered lives many of us lead, online dating is a way to explore larger circles and discover those we would never otherwise meet.Possibly you’ve tried online dating before and are debating giving it another go.Focus on the Family’s Boundless create informative and entertaining podcasts that deal with various topics relevant to Christian singles in their 20s and 30s.