As the saying goes, "You're only as old as the man you're feeling." So, are Madonna, Mariah, and J-Lo all on to something with their considerably younger beaus?
Or should we take a lesson from Demi and avoid robbing cradles? They're Not As Independent"Most of my ex's were younger.
We asked 10 women to tell us what they learned from dating a younger guy. In my opinion, it never turned out well because they were intimidated by where I was in life in comparison ... They never took the initiative, or showed confidence.
They weren't as independent as I am, and sometimes I just wanted them to plan the date for once." — Pam, 252.
They're Drama-Free"When I have the choice, I date men who are 30 years younger than me.
Men in their 30's are still about having fun, adventuring, exploring and building their career, and they appreciate a drama free connection with a woman.
A longer span of time before he’s reaching for the Viagra.
Sure, you’ll have dinner dates, but also be ready for, say, a 10-mile hike one weekend followed by an indie rock concert the next.
And rather than this being intimidating, it turns him on. With a younger dude, there is less of a chance of getting damaged goods — a guy fresh off a broken-off engagement, for instance, or finding an old live-in ex-girlfriend's body wash (Cookie dough? You'll spend all your time at your place because his is either gross or his parents' house. You'll basically never have to do a Walk of Shame in your entire relationship. The occasional late night, unexpectedly fun house party, and kinda decent obscure band whose album he burned for you? The ambivalent dudes, shitty apartments, and entry-level bullshit job? While someone a little older might worry that you're veering off the path you should stay on, a young guy will encourage you to keep ~*~*~f OLLo Wi Ng y Ou R d Re Am~*~* to become a hand model or a papier-mâché artist or whatever.
Whatever tips you suggest to him will be imprinted on his unformed brain and carried over to With great power comes great responsibility, bra. Or having you sing "The Bear Came Over the Mountain" while putting things in his butt. Being the older woman means, among other things, that you are independent, smart, and have your shit together. For instance: During sex, Nick Cannon and Mariah Carey listen to ... Because you're the grown-up, and grown-ups know better. For instance, he knows you are more familiar than he is with the job search, so he listens when you suggest that, I dunno, maybe he use Comic Sans for his resume font. He's got less romantic history for you to deal with. You can relive the most fun parts of your younger years without suffering through the worst parts. He won't judge you for quitting a job you hate, traveling around Europe, or making some other random quarter-life detour.
He might be into, say, letting you put things in his butt. He is at least partly into you because you impress him. When it comes down to it, you're the alpha dog in the relationship. He's more likely to take advice from you without letting it bruise his ego.
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Nine women dish on what they've learned from playing cougar.
They’re very into the idea of spending time with a woman who brings a little more to the table—a whole world of experience and interests outside of his own. He’s smarter than you think and would welcome a grown-up conversation, not to mention a mature relationship.
To say men JUST want sex, especially young men, isn’t a fair assessment.
Introducing him to friends was a struggle, even if it was just at a chill house party.
Here are the reasons you wave off the idea of dating young: (aimless, noncommittal, out just for sex). But it didn’t seem to fit my reasons for dating younger, nor is it an accurate or flattering explanation of why younger men are worth dating.
They don't mind the power inequity, while men who are closer to my age feel the need to battle for the position." — Paula, 673.
They Make Great Rebounds "I dated a guy who was 6 years my junior after a bad breakup. The sex was AMAZING and his friends basically thought I was a goddess ..I couldn't have a normal 'grownup' conversation with him at all, even about the simplest things.