Dysfunctional dating relationships

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When you raise a significant issue in dating and the man or woman responds by crying and saying they’re sorry, marriage. Your fear of breaking off the relationship should be obliterated by the fear of making a foolish marital choice which is far, far worse. “Those who know your name will trust in you, for you, Lord, have never forsaken those who seek you” (Psalm ). My wife and I have a single friend who is a godly, strong and gifted woman.

A mature person—the kind you want to marry—is always growing and always open to biblically based conviction. One woman told me she couldn’t bear to “just give up on four years of my life.” Now she may be headed for divorce and will have to give up Another woman thought marriage would “solve” the sexual issues her potential husband struggled with. She’s overheard some of the conversations (without identifying details, of course) and recently told us, “Hearing these stories make me feel a whole lot better about my situation.” It truly is better to be a little frustrated in your singleness (if in fact you are frustrated at all) than to think a dysfunctional marriage to a dysfunctional man or woman would be better because at least you’d be married.

What I mean is that I like them right where they are…

I know she’s not interested in hooking up with other guys, we see each other regularly enough (one a week or so) and when we’re together it’s nice, but there’s no feeling of exclusivity or dependency. The girl starts becoming attached to me, missing me and wanting to become more “official”.

A complicated relationship is a dysfunctional relationship.

Have you ever asked someone about their relationship and all they can respond with is “It’s complicated”?

If you compromise on any of these, you will have a long time to regret it.

Unfortunately, I’ve had to disable messages on my author page because I just can’t keep up—and the advice wasn’t often heeded, anyway.

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While a girl could get me to put in more effort by withdrawing a bit, I am ultimately not looking for a relationship and my effort is only going to go so far. I’ve been successfully manipulated into relationships too.

In the end, they’ve failed because I knew in my mind, heart and gut that it wasn’t what I wanted and as much as I tried to numb myself into wanting the relationship, I couldn’t kid myself.

First, you might like this article: The issues here are space and validation.

I’ve had relationships that I have tried hard to keep in “stasis”.

This line of reasoning is used by police to solve crimes, doctors to diagnose illnesses, etc.

It would be great if people used this same line of reasoning to simplify their relationships, instead of making them more complicated.

The simple, UN-complicated fact is, your relationship most likely should end, and you should know it.

Occom’s razor is a line of reasoning that the simplest answer is most likely the correct one.

I’m not looking for that and when that starts coming up, I scale my presence in her life back considerably – I don’t want things to turn into a relationship and therefore I withdraw. I’ve pushed her away and now I’m going to lose her. my goal being that I’d like to return to “stasis” – that perfect sweet spot of comfortable company and sexual satisfaction without having to tie myself down to any relationship.

Then, inevitably, the girl starts to get upset, frustrated, confused, etc. My point here: My goal is to maintain the stage before exclusivity and relationship happens. I’m clear on this and it’s practical for where I am in my life right now.

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