Internet dating woes

Being a single woman in your 30s can become a bit of a chore.

Watching friends settle down while you battle through endless rounds of dating events and online profiles can all add up to a rather depressing feeling of "why me?

It becomes such a boring argument to hear over and over that the picture doesn't matter. What useful purpose will it serve you if the picture you choose doesn't even resemble what you look like in real life? If you think that then think about the way the person you just met feels. I've heard of people actually walking away from dates when the picture doesn't match. In my own experience, I don't walk away from a woman.

I try to make the best of the few moments that I just decided it will be with the other person, then I say good-bye and good luck.

While some women might have tried therapy, settled for Mr Right Now or kept moaning, I have tried something completely different: stand-up comedy.

I've realised that there's nothing better than turning a night getting rejected on a dating website into a room full of giggles and applause.

It usually has a lot to do with the pictures a person chooses to depict oneself. If a person is lucky enough to get past a few dates with the same person to get to know who that person is under the skin, only then does the picture matter little. You are going to have to meet the person on the other end of the phone, eventually, if you mean business.

So how did I go from sad singleton to comedy wannabe? I had wanted to do a comedy course for a long time and it dawned on me that my perennial search for love could provide perfect material for my routine.

Dating may seem like fun but emotionally it can be really hard work.

Sometimes I wonder if I’m going to die alone—”sometimes” being loosely defined as “regularly” — because life is unfair, and dating can often times feel impossible.

Waking up to your dog’s morning breath, taking showers alone and scrolling past loving couples kissing in your Instagram feed serve as daily reminders that you’re solo, and that there’s a good chance you will stay that way indefinitely.

By Katy Ray Current studies show that 3 out of 5 gay couples meet online, a staggering statistic when compared to the only 1 in 5 heterosexual couples who meet the same way.

It appears as though society’s majority sentiment toward homosexuality has forced us into online dating communities and gay bars, the only two places where our heteronormative social rules have deemed it probable for us to meet potential mates.

If you’re not the type to seek out LGBT social events like a Women’s Happy Hour or Go Gay DC’s LGBT Meetup group, then chances are, you’re meeting women online.

Whether by choice or by the lack there of, the fact of the matter is, it’s 2013 and everyone is doing it.

And while I can’t speak for previous generations of daters, seems modern dating has become a meandering processes of head games, dejection and waiting around for the next best thing.

Is it possible to create a meaningful connection without feeling completely worthless and insane?

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