You’ve argued over politics, religion, and family stuff.
You’ve shared your world views and established the points you agree, and disagree, on.
Dating your best friend means that they will know you like the back of their hand.
They’ve memorized the way you chew your lip when you’re being pensive.
Who doesn’t want to end up with a guy who has Chris Hemsworth’s face and Ryan Gosling’s body?
If you’re hoping to go the distance with your best friend, you’ll already know if your future aspirations align, which will allow you to prepare for the possible path ahead. There’s nothing more awkward – or in some cases, upsetting – than discussing your partner’s dating history.
But, you’ve most likely had that discussion with your best friend without the implications of being in a relationship. Perhaps they’ve cheated in the past or have had various relationship issues.
But, as every collegiette knows, looks aren’t everything.
Since a set of killer abs will be replaced with a beer belly before you know it, it’s important to be in a relationship with a guy who you enjoy spending time with.
According to Susanne Alexander, relationship coach and author of , a best guy friend fits the bill.
“The reality is that a sustainable relationship or marriage requires the best qualities of friendship as part of the foundation,” Alexander says.
In a way, it makes sense: he listens to your pointless rants and remembers your birthday, and you obviously enjoy hanging out with him. Sometimes, dating feels like a cruel game of “20 Questions.” When you date a guy who’s already your friend, you can skip the small talk.
But like any other type of relationship, this kind of romance has its drawbacks. “We already knew each other extremely well when we started dating, so we didn’t have that awkward ‘getting to know each other’ period,” says Julie*, a senior at Northeastern University who dated her male best friend.
It may not have been obvious from the start, but your best friend could just be the man or woman of your dreams.
Once you get past the initial awkwardness of transitioning from friends to more than friends, everything should be smooth sailing, right? If you have decided that romance might just be on the cards for you and your best friend, it is important to proceed with care. If you play your cards right, you might have yourself a future life partner.