It was also clear that she had her ideas formed by what she had read previously. Because while there’s a lot of good stuff out there, no one expert has all the answers.
When you start believing that one person (including me) has the gospel, you cease being a critical thinker.
First meetings, especially those catalyzed on the Internet don’t have to be complicated, but there are a few caveats to heed prior to jumping in. Is he going to call me tomorrow to say he wants to see me again? Early 40’s, bright, successful, and really excited about coaching and learning about the opposite sex. Is he in a place where he wants a long-term relationship?Whatever the reason that tempts you to monopolize the conversation, resist it.Instead of talking too much, try to just focus on the moment at hand and be fully present with the other person.Wondering how to get to the second date with someone you met online? As most online daters know, it's not the first date that's hard to get — it's the second. When you're getting to know your date, don't be prepping your next thing to say while he's talking.But if you're dating online because you want a relationship and not just a date, making a connection and getting that second date (and third and fourth) is the whole point. You may be tempted to make that first date a sleepover. To find out if there's a spark, you can't just talk about the weather. Ask him a question to get him to expand on what he just told you.All right, so now you’re all set with a shiny dating profile that’s garnered lots of hits from potential hotties.You’ve winnowed through the pool and chosen your potential catch.The theory is that you don’t want to waste time – yours or his – and if your “honesty” frightens him off, he’s not the right guy for you. Here’s why: In being “honest”, you’re sabotaging the dating process and making the man NOT want to get to know you better.Not because you want to get married and have kids – he does, too! It’s for you to get a better sense of me and whether I’m a solid catch, it’s for me to determine if we’ve got some attraction and easy conversation – and it’s for both of us to determine whether there’s enough potential to meet for a second date. When you introduce concepts like marriage, kids, religion, politics, money – trying to ensure that the person across from you is a good long-term prospect, you essentially turn from a pleasant, fun, likeable person …into The Interrogator. Doesn’t matter if The Interrogator is smart, hot, and interesting.